So What.

It is time to ask the magic question about the year that was. So what?


So what happened?

What was good?

What was not so good?

So what are you going to do differently?

So what are you going to avoid?

So what? What came of your accomplishments?

So what. It is true when you put it that way. So what .
Did you make a difference to someone or something? So what. Are you proud of where you are today? Do you know where you are going tomorrow? And how are you going to commit to it?

Ask yourself the So What question as you set your goals for 2012.  Let's share our goals, or even one goal so that we can offer support for each other.

A Day of Light

Today is a day of light.  No matter what you celebrate at this time of year, you are celebrating light....time moving forward, daylight growing, Winter moving towards Spring.

This is a time of reflection (and you need light to have a reflection).  Here is a toast to the light in your life.  May it always shine brightly and lead you on the journey that you intend....many blessings for a Merry Christmas and time of light.

Thank you for being a starlight in my life.

Christmas Vacation

You remember this movie right...Chevy Chase & Christmas Vacation.  I have been thinking a lot about  the emotions that surround the holidays.  This movie certainly portrays them all:

• as much as you want family to visit (and stay) you also want time with just your spouse and kids
• as much as we all have a Cousin Eddy to provide comic relief, there is also truth and even sadness that is hiding within the jokes and happy outlook
• out of the mouths of babes come the most detailed observations of what is really happening in a family
• that there is always so much to do to get ready and the pfffft.....like the turkey  - it's over.
• there is resilience - no matter what, we go back for more
• there is the wish to give the best Christmas ever, including the best Christmas gift - face it, you cannot give a pool every year.

So now we are faced with the last one....guilt. ....and I am not talking about food. I am in a space in life where everything seems to collide instead of connect. Not what I am used to. I am usually the middle person ( and being a middle child this makes sense) and I can find my way while focusing on the rest of the season, when I get to this time of year, emotions see, to take over. There is a certain part of my life that can actually rip me apart with guilt...to the point where I can understand how some people can hate the holiday season.


I think I have finally learned how to make sense of the guilt I was/am used to feeling around them. It is now time to put away the past and stay front and center, no longer looking in the rear view mirror and thinking of all the what ifs and instead focusing on the why nots.

Christmas was difficult when our family was going through the divorce and two different households, now with one house, we are starting our own new traditions that will hopefully take us through our next steps of generation-building as a family. While we always take time to reflect on our year and accomplishments, we have not really sat and planned the next year together. This will be a first for us. We are also hosting a Christmas Eve dinner with friends ...ours and our boys friends.

This will be our nuclear family time. Starting out on our own...and finding our way together.


(Thank you for indulging me in a not so traditional leadership post....but then again, as a leader in my family, this must be said too...it takes time to grow and learn.  I thank the shining stars for them everyday!)

The Solstice Arrives

Late tonight the Winter Solstice arrives.  This is always a special time for me to reflect on my business.  The solstice is the time where the sun reaches the southernmost point over the northern hemisphere - as far away as it can get.

We named this coaching practice after the Solstice because of the measure of the sun...how the earth turns toward and away from the sun at different points....but always turning and always changing and ever growing and finding new ways to see each other. 

In essence, this is what coaching does for my clients.  New ways to see, new ways to change, new perspectives on distance and changes that happen so quickly in business - which really has a seasonal flow to it, just as the sun and the earth do.

Celebrate the changes.  Celebrate the season.  Learn more about Solstice Group:  Coaching for Entrepreneurs & Executives.  After all - the new year is just around the corner.

2012 Marketing Blueprint

I mentioned that I was thinking a lot about my business.  I have worked hard to develop an easy process so that I can marry my business goals to marketing in an easy-to-do, easy-to-track manner.  Here is it....
and I am giving it to you.
I will be hosting a LIVE Workshop and online webinars this month to share my SECRET  - I have finally put it on paper in a step-by-step order so that I can share it with you.
Join me - there are a variety of dates and times available...even time for private sessions in your office.
Of course, I have one date in January, in case you are behind in this planning.

Why did I develop this?  I have found that many business leaders use the plan in their heads and hopefully find some way to tell the world about it.  Not only for marketing, but also for their business plan - where are the focus areas, who are the key target markets, what are the key focus products/services...many companies do not have this plan on paper.  Why not?  Never did it before, is the usual answer I get.

Learn more about the 2012 Marketing Blueprint. - see how this can change your business!

Unique Start to 2012

Thinking about my business also means thinking about my unique abilities and understanding how to use them better and get rid of the other stuff (thanks Alynn for the work here).

That being said, I have focused more time on providing you with webinars and workshops, downloads and services that focus you on developing your leadership. One of my unique abilities is facilitation - so guess what?
The Goal Getter 2012 Webinar is coming to you on December 9th at 1pm EST.  You must be on this webinar - it will cost you nothing except for 1 hour of your time and a little head-space around your goals.

Check out all the information here - Goal Getters 2012.

Are you planning resolutions for 2012?  Join me and change that to goals - easier to accomplish, better for your self-esteem!